You hear over and over how communication is KEY to a happy marriage right? But what happens when you find out YOU DON'T COMMUNICATE THE SAME!?!?!?! This is an ongoing battle in many marriages where one meant this and the other heard that. So is there a happy medium? At what point do you realize that you are both on the same team and your mate isn't out to hurt you?
This is when we, as women, have to try to tell the difference between responding EMOTIONALLY because we THINK he is trying to be a jerk and your feelings are hurt and responding LOGICALLY. Many times guys have no idea what we are feeling and how we think so when he says something and we blow up we just look plain silly.
This is what I am going to try (I didn't read this anywhere I seriously made this up); when he says something that makes me FEEL like he is being an arse I'm going to take a deep breath, remember we are a TEAM and in my heart I know he would not want me upset and THEN respond.
As women we have to remember that our men have feelings too and they do NOT make him a, for lack of a better word, bitch. Who in their right mind wants someone that NEVER tells you how they feel? That never has a real emotion out of fear or being seen as weak? How can you really get to know your man if you don't see him at his weakest point? It is HARD to see this man that protects you and can throw you around like a rag doll in the bedroom as someone with real feelings.
I'm still learning though. People in my family didn't really talk about emotions so that may be part of my issue but I refuse to let it break me. I will learn to effectively communicate at all times... to be continued....
